the ceremony is so much more than 35 minutes.

let me tell you a secret:

So much is said about what remains in a wedding are the pictures and video - but let me remind you:

your story will also be written down forever.

I can only write something accurate and meaningful if you understand that this here is so much more than research, but an opportunity to reminisce and to be moved, to feel connected with each other, with the journey and

with the purpose of that day.

our steps

our steps

Do not be mistaken: absolutely everything here has been carefully crafted and intentionally designed to create moments of connection between the two of you throughout the planning of this event.

Almost like a slightly rebellious way of disagreeing with that mantra the wedding industry loves to repeat: here, every day can be a big day. Here, the daily basis is king.

01. ONLINE FORMS

01 - FIRST STEP: 

ONLINE FORMS

PURPOSE : To invite the couple to reflect on their answers calmly, using a form of communication that isn’t as immediate as speaking and that feels more private, especially for those who are more introspective.

Estimated time to complete: 15 days, individual experience

More than a step where you share about your feelings, this is where we create a beautiful record of them. Imagine the privilege of, five or ten years from now, coming back to read these words, or having your child revisiting the memories from the time their parents chose one another. The more care and dedication you put into this, the richer it will be coming back to this.

Except for the first questionnaire, everything is completed individually. It’s just you — your memories, your feelings. The idea is to open a bottle of wine, to slow down and to intentionally create a moment of connection.

Take your time with the answers, lean into the process, and trust that a single detail can hold so much. It truly makes a difference in my work.

And one last request: don’t save your emotions only for the altar.

Allow yourselves to use every chance you get. 

PS: Ideally, you reply in the language both of you will understand.

LINKS

// 1º FORM - THE CEREMONY

( PREENCHER JUNTOS)

Link 🇧🇷:  https://forms.gle/zFJSKmoPxsdRmZZ4A

Link 🇬🇧: https://forms.gle/iM3CkzdeLu8es21j6

// 2º FORM - ABOUT THE OTHER

(PREENCHER INDIVIDUAL)

Link 🇧🇷: https://forms.gle/Cr2JMgszbrhVYak46

Link 🇬🇧: https://forms.gle/66K9GBKt71qKeReo7

// 3º FORM - ABOUT YOURSELF

(PREENCHER INDIVIDUAL)

Link 🇧🇷:https://forms.gle/dTYENfJTGoaoWaEH6

Link 🇬🇧: https://forms.gle/XdeiGykaFesg7eK78

BONUS:

Os formulários abaixo são para enviarem para amigos especiais e pessoas da família que podem somar na nossa narrativa. Vocês não terão acesso às respostas antes da cerimônia. 

// TO SEND TO FRIENDS 

Link 🇧🇷: https://forms.gle/JsYKCcHHQ99KfUut8

Link 🇬🇧: https://forms.gle/Zc6THhnLFtF7JLGf7

// TO SEND TO FAMILY 

Link 🇧🇷: https://forms.gle/Bb9Wj8hcqmycTTgB7

Link 🇬🇧: https://forms.gle/HargT91G5oUurwux7

I will automatically receive all the questionnaires through the platform.

However, if you’d like to save your answers in a word file or in the body of an email, I think that’s a good idea. We’ve had a few rare cases where forms weren’t received and had to be filled out again.

If you have any questions, just reach out to me :)

marvivencias@gmail.com / +55 85 98127-6217

02. TIMELINE

02 – SECOND STAGE

DESIGNING THE TIMELINE

Here we move into a beautiful and challenging exercise: structuring your journey and highlighting its key moments. The goal isn’t to memorize dates, but to reflect on which events shaped the growth of your relationship and deepened your bond.

PURPOSE OF THIS STAGE: Identify the milestones that truly strengthened or transformed your connection as a couple.

Estimated time to complete: 2 hours, couple experience

HOW TO DO IT

01) There are a few ways to create your timeline. Some couples do it on paper, others use multiple post-its placed side by side.

02) The main idea is to have the day you met at one end, and the day you’re creating the timeline — today — at the other end.

03) Fill in the middle with the key events that changed your bond. First kiss, first outing, first argument, the first time jealousy appeared, when the relationship became official, the time the doorman recognized the other without needing to buzz, or when one of you organized a drawer for the other’s things — all these small moments show how your connection grew closer.

04) Breaks and challenges can and should also be noted. Breakups, trips abroad, memorable fights. The goal isn’t to dwell on them, just to see and understand everything that shaped your bond and helped it mature into what it is today.

05) If possible, find photos from the times you’re recalling — even better. You can create a Google Drive or send me the ones that stand out via WhatsApp.

06) When you reach the point of deciding to get married, it’s helpful to ask questions that help you reflect on how you arrived at that choice.

07) Open a bottle of wine, put on a playlist. Have fun — don’t wait for the big day!

  • PEN & PAPER

    It couldn’t be simpler: just draw a horizontal line representing the passage of time, mark the starting point, and along the line add a mark for each important event, briefly noting what happened and when.

  • POST-IT

    Same idea, but using post-its to note each event. This way, you can easily move, add, or rearrange moments while seeing how each stage connects to the next. You can also assign different colors to events with different characteristics.

  • PHOTOS

    Here you’ll organize the photos in chronological order, labeling each one with the date and a brief description of the moment. As the images fall into place, you’ll be able to see the evolution of your story, the phases you’ve gone through, and the subtle changes over time.

03 – THIRD STAGE

THE FAMOUS RELICÁRIO

Relicário is a question-and-answer game. There are two separate stacks, with each card guiding the participants through meaningful exchanges, creating a necessary moment of connection before the altar.

PURPOSE OF THIS STAGE: To invite the couple to step out of their routine. To disconnect from the operational side of planning the event. Forget about bills, forget about dilemmas — just open a bottle of wine, sit on the floor, and connect with each other.

Estimated time to complete: Flexible. This experience is between the couple.

04 – FOURTH STAGE

LET’S TALK?

WHEN: 2 months before the ceremony

An informal conversation where we bring together all these beautiful pieces. When possible, I try to interview the couple both together and individually — the joint conversation lasts about 1 hour and 30 minutes, and each individual chat lasts approximately 40 minutes.

PURPOSE OF THIS STAGE: To collect behind-the-scenes stories and milestones in a more spontaneous, less structured way. To understand what led this couple to choose to stay together through both the challenges and the beauty of life.

Estimated time to complete: 3 hours, experience with me. 

05 – FIFTH STAGE

WRITING/SENDING THE VOWS

It’s impossible to leave out the text you’ll write for each other: the vows are the first-person announcement of what we’re celebrating together. Reading in advance what you have to say may be one of the most important steps in the research — and is therefore also part of constructing the ceremony itself.

PURPOSE OF THIS STAGE: To collect material and ensure this step is done calmly, following a thoughtful process for the couple.

Estimated time to complete: flexible. Individual experience.